Sunday, July 28, 2019

NOT OREGON



I did not choose Oregon.

It was a decision made starting back in January that I was not made aware of until two months ago.  After all the arrangements had been settled.  Without any voice given to a father.

I did however choose to finally be close to my son.

The echoes of late January 2018 resonate throughout this move.  Calculated, decisive.  And the choice I was forced to make was to not allow my beautiful son to further be made a pawn in the hands of a cruel-hearted plot to eliminate his dad from his life.  And before you think that I’m over dramatizing, I can back up each of these feelings with fact.

  • A job change was contemplated - January 2109
  • A request to suspend all travel reimbursements was presented through the courts - February 2019
  • A contempt charge was pursued while making huge life changes in secret - February/March 2019
  • A job was taken out of state (and across country) - April/May 2019
  • A costly court action revolving around our son was completed without any acknowledgement of the information above - May 2019
  • The weekend following the court action being closed, I was informed of ALL of the above - May 19, 2019

If you read this and think I’m bitter, then you’re absolutely correct.  I am. Wouldn’t you be?  Duck, wouldn’t you be fighting mad?  I hope you would.  I’m mad.  I’m upset.  I had a life of my own in Atlanta.  A possible new career path, friends, someone special.  But I’m sitting in a hotel room just an hour outside of Portland.  Changing everything. 

I did not choose Oregon.  I did choose my son.  I’m trying to do the right thing and let go of the feelings I feel, but you know what?  Duck it.  I have realized that when you deal with duplicitous, manipulative people it is better to remember enough to keep a safe guard on everything around you.  Otherwise you might find yourself heart-broke, pocket-broke, and starting over again at 47.

I’m willing to make the change.  I am even hoping to let go sooner than later.  But I will not forget totally a decision to disrupt entire worlds.  Remember what brought you to where you are.  Look forward, but don’t forget to look around.  Sometimes that path, well it can bite you in the ass if you aren’t aware. 

Pray.

Live.

Love while it’s there.

Don’t give up on what matters.

And breathe.


3 comments:

  1. I am confident Chad, that aside being there for your son, that this is exactly where you are meant to be. This is where you belong for your dreams and goals to build and come to fruition. This is the place where growth and strength come from- a place of uncertainty. You are going to do amazing things out there. For yourself, and for others. All the while, your little man will witness your example of how to be a loving, strong, confident man. You Got This!! Life has given you a challenge, and you are there for the fight.

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  2. Good Luck to you and Little Man. I admire you for putting LM first. I pray all things come togather for you.

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  3. Look forward, but don't forget to look around. Praying for you and your kids. From an old friend.

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